Because of the trend of fewer children, it’s
common that there’s only one or two kids in a family. As a result, this
situation makes parents pay more attention on children and want to make their
own children become the best one in the society. As a result, in addition to
staying with children all the time, if they can, some of parents start to try
to control and decide children’s life. However, the more arrangement parents give,
the less attempt children have. Maybe it’s cruel to ask people to be totally
independent of their parents, because parents’ help somehow still have advantage.
But if it goes too far, parents’ care may be injure to children. There is a
word called helicopter parents, which means parents always keep an eye on
children. They surround their children, telling them what to do, and what not
to do. It makes children lost their judgment, and limits children’s ability.
Under parents’ big protection, children gradually get used to rely on parents’
supply. According to the research, helicopter parents bring up kidult, which is
the combination of kid and adult. Kidult often have some problems. For example,
being irresponsible, lack of confidence, over dependent, couldn’t bear
frustration, and so on. In 1983, Dan Kiley, the psychologist, had mentioned Peter
Pan Syndrome, which describes those who isn’t young, but the way he or she
thinks and does is just like a child. Those who under parents’ big protection
and order is like Peter Pan, doesn’t want to grow up, only wants to hide in his
or her small world, enjoying parents’ supply and protection. But time will go
on, it’s impossible for parents to stay with children forever. Their children
still have to live on their own. The best way for parents to make their
children be better is to let go their hold. When children still have change to
fail, to be frustrated, let them experience more defeat and test, so that, they
can grow and be stronger. Parents' care doesn't mean everything, there is still something have to let children go through by themselves.
I know that you think sometimes parents should let children experience more defeat and test by themselves and i agree with you. However, in your composition, i can not find agreement or disagreement and see your point about whether you think parent's care is children's obstacle or not according to your title. So maybe you should write more about your ideas and make readers easier understand your argument .
回覆刪除I think you should talk more example about how parents should let their children go. You just mentioned how it will become if parents keep eyes on children. And I think sometimes parents' advice is necessary, because you cannot ask a little kid to make every decision and to be responsible for all he/ she has done. Maybe you can say in what extent children have to be independent or what they can make their own choice at that age.
回覆刪除"When children still have change to fail," Were you trying to type "chance"?
回覆刪除You mentioned that "if it goes too far, parents’ care may be injure to children." But it's a little difficult to define "too far", because everyone might have different thoughts for it. Maybe you can tell us what kind of care you think is too much.
I have read your partner's article first, so I guess that you point is against giving too much push from parents. But here, after reading your issue paper, I only learn that there are helicopter parents who take control on their children. I did not see your point. Maybe you should talk about your point first and then make your article organized by explaining the reasons.
回覆刪除letting go of your children might sounds easy, since parents would just have to go back to their old lives. however, is it really possible that adults, as parents, could let their children decide everything? and how would we know that children, after making their own decision, would not lost confidence in themselves if they failed? i personal believe that parents' care has a lot to do with the well-being of children, since parents are their first model to imitate and the first environment they would learn lessons about the world. therefore, although i do agree with you that helicopter parents would become some kind of obstacle, I think that children still needs quite a lot of attention from parents to grow and learn.
回覆刪除i think your information about helicopter parents and Peter Pan Syndrome is very good. i've heard that u and Zoe's parents are the very two kinds of parents Zoe have mentioned in her article, so maybe u can add your own experience in your composition to let us know why u think parents who let their children make more decision is better.
回覆刪除and in line 10, maybe it's better to say "what can't do" than "what not to do"?