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     The magazine called 《bobo小天才雜誌》, which published in 2008 April, wrote an article about five types of parents’ education. First type is democratic type. The children under this kind of education is usually independent and good at adapting new surroundings. They also like to try new things. The second type is autocratic type. The children under this kind of education is passive, and lack of thinking and criticizing. The third type is neglect type. The children who are usually neglected by parents are easy to debase the confidence and get away from people. The fourth type’s children is often spoiled by their parents. What is special is that the magazine divide the parents of the fourth type into two kind. One is let children do everything they want. The other is over protect their children. The last type’s parent is lack of unity. It makes children difficult to adapt new surroundings, have a sense of security and trust others.

     I want to focus on the second kind of parents of the fourth type. According to the article, this kind of parents often substitute for children to make decision. Because they consider their decision better than children’s, even the best and only way. In addition, their method also cause negative effect to the children. Those who has been used to parent’s overall arrangement will take parents’ help for granted. Because getting used to parent’s arrangement, they can’t learn to negotiate with others. And this kind of children is easy to be spoiled by their parents. As a result, some children growing under this kind education can’t get along with others because they only think about themselves. Some will feel uncertain about their own decision and ability because their decisions are always denied by their parents. In fact, these problems all result from parents’ distrust. Parents can’t trust their children can deal with the problems by themselves. They want to build a house to let the children get inside forever, so that they can never be hurt. Nevertheless, it will only make their children more fragile.

     In this century, parents get used to arrange everything for their children, which school to go to, which instrument and language to learn. It’s normal for parents to give children some advices. After all, parents indeed experience more from the society. However, everyone in this world has their own best way to face any trouble or difficulty. Parents’ idea can be a reference, but it doesn’t have to be the answer. Moreover, we can’t deny that some obstacle can make children stronger and easier to solve the problems by themselves. Parents can’t keep their kids company forever. What they can do is to provide an appropriate assistance to train them how to protect and improve themselves.

Resource : www.cyut.edu.tw/teacher/ft00009/Posts02.doc‎