The magazine called 《bobo小天才雜誌》, which published in 2008
April, wrote an article about five types of parents’ education. First type is democratic
type. The children under this kind of education is usually independent and good
at adapting new surroundings. They also like to try new things. The second type
is autocratic type. The children under this kind of education is passive, and
lack of thinking and criticizing. The third type is neglect type. The children who
are usually neglected by parents are easy to debase the confidence and get away
from people. The fourth type’s children is often spoiled by their parents. What
is special is that the magazine divide the parents of the fourth type into two
kind. One is let children do everything they want. The other is over protect their
children. The last type’s parent is lack of unity. It makes children difficult
to adapt new surroundings, have a sense of security and trust others.
I want to focus on
the second kind of parents of the fourth type. According to the article, this
kind of parents often substitute for children to make decision. Because they
consider their decision better than children’s, even the best and only way. In
addition, their method also cause so negative effect to the children. Those who
has been used to parent’s overall arrangement will take parents’ help for
granted. Some can’t get along with others because they only think about
themselves. Some will feel uncertain about their own decision and ability. In
fact, these problems all result from parents’ distrust.
In this century, parents
get used to arrange everything for their children, which school to go to, which
instrument and language to learn. It’s normal for parents to give children some
advice. After all, parents indeed experience more from the society. However, everyone
in this world has their own best way to face any trouble or difficulty. Parents’
idea can be a reference, but it doesn't have to be the answer. Moreover, we can’t
deny that some obstacle can make children stronger and easier to solve the
problems by themselves. Parents can’t keep their kids company forever. What
they can do is to provide an appropriate assistance to train them how to protect
and improve themselves.
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