Many parents will think strict education as the only way to let children
get better position in their future. However, some of them can’t even control
how strict is useful and efficient. Sometimes, parents think the discipline
they give is appropriate, on the other hand, in fact, is a poison to the
children.
Celine Raphael is a talented child who is good at playing the piano.
However, everything changes when she is “crowded” by this title. In order to
letting Celine become a professional pianist, her father starts to force Celine
practice the piano day and night, even stop her to have a normal life that a
child deserve. Furthermore, her father will use belt to whip her once she make
mistake, or other much more terrible punishments. In the end, Celine finally
stood out and fight for her liberty. She successfully make her dream come true,
being a doctor instead of a pianist.
From Celine’s biography, we can find the difference of idea and feelings
between parents and children. Although Celine’s father punished Celine strictly
and mercilessly, even making Celine have anorexia, he denied every charges from
Celine. He impute his cruel deed to Celine’s bad-behaved. We can find that,
something parents think is good for children may, in fact, hurt children most
seriously. However, parents will just name this discipline a good way to let their
children a wonderful future. But, do these deed really come from the truly hope
for children? I don’t think so.
Many parents will force their children to learn the instrument or dance
or other accomplishments because they want their children to finish what they
can’t do by themselves. Celine’s father once dream to play the piano, however, because
his parents can’t afford this expenses. Instead to understand what Celine
really want, he just think that Celine is good at playing the piano, so she
have to develop her talent without other excuses. This projection is the
biggest problem the most parents will have.
Some parents will feel some kind of guilty when they punish their
children, then they will try to give their children some consolations. However,
even you pull the nail out of the wall, there’s still a mark on it. Celine’s father
will embrace her in the night to get Celine’s forgiveness after he punish her.
But he will go on his terrible discipline and humiliation day after day. Father
want to make up their relationship by a little hug. But to Celine, her hurt can’t
restore so easily.
Celine has mentioned that her father is growing up under a harsh environment
and education from his father. His father also use strict method to educate
him. Although Celine’s father really get a good position in the future, his
mind also become anomalistic. Is this really what his father want to give him? From
her father’s childhood, we can also discover one thing. A strict education may
really make your children have a better work or achievement, but their mind may
also have so influence by your inappropriate treatment.
From Celine’s biography, we can understand those who is under the
education from the parents like Mother Tiger. When parents just see the good
side from Mother Tiger’s book, maybe they should read this book to avoid making
the mistake like Celine’s father.
Reverence:
Celine Raphael(2013)。過度教育。台北縣：寶瓶文化事業有限公司。
